Monday, September 28, 2009

~~The Neighborhood Bully~~

Our neighbors are all pretty nice and easy to get along with. Although a few of them tried to push their religion down my throat when we first bought the house, they have either given up or realized they may as well be trying to nail Jello to a tree~ it just isn't going to happen.

But last week I really had an issue with one neighbor that I didn't want to deal with. The little boy across the street is probably 10 or 11 and he has been picking on my 6 year old daughter at the bus stop. It started out with teasing and I told her to ignore him and he would stop because he liked the reaction he was getting by making her cry~~boy was I wrong.

When she started ignoring his teasing, he started flipping her in the head when he walked by her. My husband told her to smack him back~ duh dad!

So instead we went over to talk to his mom. She said that she couldn't believe he was bullying her because he gets picked on so much she was sure he would never do it to someone else, but she said she would talk to him. That was the next big mistake because after that the teasing and flipping got worse.

Next my husband went over to talk to the boy "man to man". He told him that he didn't care if he apologized to her or just started ignoring her, but from that point on he was going to leave her alone! That lasted about 1 day.
So I had my 16 year old nephew come over and give him a talking to just to let him know that he wasn't going to be picking on her anymore. He didn't touch him and my nephew is friends with the big brother so it isn't like a stranger just dropped down on him, but he did make sure the bully knew he was done bullying little girls.

Was this wrong? I don't know. Part of me thinks that what I did was no better than what the bully was doing, but the other part says I have to do whatever it takes to keep my kids happy and safe. What do you think? Did I overstep my boundaries? I like my kids to fight their own battles, but this war was a bit unfair in my eyes.
I’d like to sit back and tell you how much I regret being such a bitch and how I would never do anything like this ever again, but it would be a lie. Once provoked, I can be a complete and vindictive bitch. And when it comes to my babies I become a mama bear looking over her cubs.


Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I don't think you were wrong at all but perhaps, the point would've gotten across faster if you had had a conversation with the parents. The worse that could happen is that they would smirk and act like it was no big deal but possibly, the parents would've disciplined him for his actions.

If it stops then, don't second guess that it was the wrong thing to do. What matters is that it stops.

Vaylene & Jordan said...

I would have done the same thing. I think bullying is worse now. You need to do something before it turns worse. I think talking to the parents is something that was good to do. They need to be aware of the situation. You would want to know too if the tables were turned.
BTW, thank you so much for the gift! We loved it! I love the outfits, so cute! We can't wait to be able to use all the wonderful stuff you gave us!